Sometimes we need a little help to get our sexual dialogue started! Why not try the following:
1. Give your partner the greatest gift you can give another person - listen to him or her with your full attention.
2. Encourage your sexual imagination with some light erotic reading, maybe during a luxurious bath. Nancy Friday's 'My Secret Garden' is full of women's fantasies and stands the test of time.
3. Introduce the Vielle Stimulator and Stimulating Gel to your sexual exploration to encourage blood flow and invite busy minds to 'zone in' on pleasurable sensations.
4. In a new relationship remember you are both more likely to be feeling vulnerable. Take things slowly, wear a little clothing if that feels more comfortable and use just one or two tea lights in the room. Starting again means you can reinvent yourself a bit! Try imagining yourself as a strong woman you admire and think of how she would do things!
5. In a more established relationship it can be useful to get away from the familiar and introduce some novelty. So why not:
- Change your geography - a night or two away can break the domestic cycle. Just make sure the Vielle Discovery pack gets a space in your suitcase!
- Read each other a bedtime story -'Bedtime Stories for Women' by Nancy Madore (Llumina Press £10.95) and Five Minute Erotica by Carol Queen (Running Press £6.99) are both worth a look.
- Share some food/champagne on cushions on the floor.
- Try to make 15 minutes of 'couple time' most days. It doesn't matter what you do - have a walk, have a bath together but keep off domestic topics.
